How Selfless is Marriage?

So now, we've seen how the origin of marriage was to monopolize woman, and

to treat them as another 'private property' item.  Luckily, as time passed it's evolved into a much less selfish act.  But now, we've been taught that the powerful looking charade of marriage is something very romantic.

And sure, marriage is a hypnotizing experience.  It really makes you feel as though you're doing an act of meaning.  Just think of the candles, the atmospheric locations, the sacred feeling of a priest and witnessing audience waiting to celebrate you.  This all makes you feel that something great is happening, when in fact, nothing is really happening.  The world doesn't stop for you.  It doesn't start vibrating, and petals don't start falling from heaven, apart from the little girl told to throw them.

But that's exactly what our fearful minds need: an act of meaning. There's a certain reassurance that comes when you feel a part of an institution that validates your love spiritually or legally.  What do social formalities have to do with the feeling of love?  They can't give sanction.  Love is a personal feeling between two people yet we try to make these public sanctions feel like they're sanctions in our hearts.

Love is a feeling of significance, but marriage is an experience of sole meaning.  Sure, that may be a good thing in the eyes of some people, but its meaning is to reassure our fearful, insecure minds that the other person won't leave us.  Love is a feeling of the heart, whereas marriage is a more tangible safety net for the mind.

In the end, marriage is to make love a contract, to put law above love.  Just have a look around you, law has even made the marriage "business" lucrative, allowing you to get your "money's worth" when things don't go so peachy and everything ends in divorce.

It's just another business transaction at the end of the day.

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