Everything We’ve Ever Been Told About Achieving is Wrong

I’ve learned something incredibly valuable over the past several years, and it goes against

everything I’ve been taught about achieving in my life. It’s been a revolution for me, allowing me to achieve more and actually enjoy the process of working toward my goals, without stress, tension, struggle, and defeat.

When I started to dive into what I was discovering, I found there was a strict rulebook in place for life. If we follow it diligently, work really hard, keep our head down, and push on through all the stress and struggle, it tells us we might just get to something good, someday.

I don’t think this is the best way, and I’m not really sure it works all that well for any of us. I think there’s something better. What I realized was revolutionary for me, and the more I started to get into the process, and actually practice being in this new way, the more my whole world expanded and exploded. It put me in a new place of playing catch-up with all the awesomeness that I experience, more than I ever dreamed. It’s a wonderful place to be, and I know we can all be here.

All the sacred yoga and philosophy texts tell us that when we are in control of how we feel—not in control of our circumstances, but changing how we feel about them—then we can become OK with how things are. They tell us that the world is full of suffering, stress, and struggle, and our job is to practice this suffering, as a way of becoming OK with it, and of one day transcending it.

I get it, that’s nice. But with all the progress we’ve made around the science of stress, we know this just isn’t a great idea. We don’t need more stress, and we certainly don’t need to practice it. I knew I wanted something more than this. I wanted to feel great, and live an awesome life. I wanted to create and recreate the world around me, release stress, and when challenges arise, learn to move easily through them. Too much to ask? I don’t think so.

Accessing Your Full Self

I started to practice my life in a different way. I started to make the following statements my mantras:

• Move easy. Everything you’ve got. In every direction you can.

• Use what you need. Rest what you don’t.

• Do the simple and challenging tasks with the least amount of effort.

• How you move is how you are.

And everything changed. My body started to work really well. My mind became calmer and clearer. I was starting to gain access to my whole self, instead of my partial self, the rest of it locked up in tension, stress, and fear. Things started to get good, then really good, then awesome.

We all grew up with “no pain, no gain.” As an adult, the busier you are and the more stressed you are with everything you’ve got going on, the more you get tricked into believing all this is a sign of success. Sleep deprivation is something to aspire to. Pushing against obstacles all day, every day, is proof that you’re achieving.

Leading yoga for so many years, I am grateful to discover how we are in our bodies matches how we are in our lives. Who cares what yoga poses you can or cannot do. How you are, how you move, how your energy is—is all that matters. And when you align how you are with how you’d like to be, all the poses become easy anyway. You realize they are only one frame of the flow, arbitrary waypoints along a journey without endpoints. The flow is your life.

Shifting into a New Mindset

A gigantic shift—even bigger than the big bang—is the big softening that must have come before it. This softening is the transition you can take to get more, do more, see more, achieve more—all with less energy. It’s the transition you can take to feel fantastic during the entire process. This one is important. How you feel when you get where you’re going is created by how you feel along the way.

Believing in yourself is the root of the issue here. When you lack belief, you stress, get tense, judge, and basically act crazy to get the things you think you want. When you take the big leap of faith in yourself, and your own natural ability, you can begin the process of softening.

Trust your body will do what it needs to do without you tensing it. Trust your mind will do what it needs to do without you stressing it. Let your spirit run wild with the natural energy you contain. You block your energy when you fill yourself with this extra tension and stress. You become unblocked and limitlessly capable when you drop the stress, and learn to move in harmony with yourself.

3 Ways to Unblock Energy

When you get stuck, try this simple process.

1. Soften. Without softness, very little is possible. Energy, movement, and flow are blocked. You can still do your life tense, but you won’t live up to your full potential. Softening comes in two parts. The first is physical softening. Bend your joints a bit and relax your muscles. Allow some space to enter. The second is emotional softening. Soften your whole self. Ease your mind. Allow some space to enter.

2. Breathe deep enough that you can feel. Breathing is one thing you can do all day long without getting tired, and there is so much more you can do to access the power of your breath, besides simply breathing automatically. The beginning of this is breathing so deep that you start to notice how you feel, how you are.

3. Sensitize. The first two steps will lead you to actually feel what’s going on with you. This can be quite scary, especially if you’ve been trained to block out sensation and push through pain. Sensitizing is incredible information that makes you your own best caregiver. From here, you learn to release, relax, heal, and simultaneously get in the flow, doing more with less energy. Your result is outstanding accomplishment, with energy left over to use for more, while feeling great during the entire process.

All of this matters because you matter. Going through life forcing, pushing, and struggling can get you to some of your goals, but you will have a limit. Using more effort and tension than needed to get where you’re going is a strategy that breaks down over time, because it breaks you down over time. Worse, you’ll most likely feel miserable during the process, as well as when you get there. The prize may arrive, but how you feel about it lacks the value you crave.

So this brings me back to all those sacred yoga and philosophy texts. I think we can rewrite the message in a way that makes sense for us now. Because the world isn’t just how it is—full of stress and struggle and suffering, and we shouldn’t have to just get used to it. I don’t believe we’re so limited.

The world around you—how you feel, how you navigate through it all—is what you create. This incredible power is in all of us: you can change your circumstances and your life by changing how you are in your body and mind. It’s in how you move through everything you do. Slow down, breath deep enough to feel, believe that what you feel is worth responding to, and respond. This changes everything. You literally can have it all—because you create it—and more.

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